Tear’s still well up in my eyes and stream down my face when I think of my babies when they were little. I wish I knew then, what I know now about life and how quickly it goes by. Even as I write these words, I have to stop to wipe my eyes and take a breath. My boys taught me many lesson’s in life that I am beginning to see for the first time, and perhaps one of the most powerful lessons was on being patient.
I’m sure you’re thinking that patience is taught to every parent when they have little ones, and you’re right! But, one of the lesson’s I learned from my youngest son when he was 3-years old is played out in my mind often. If you have little ones at home, I hope that you read this all the way through. You see, life often gets in the way of really living your life.
When we are in our twenties we are starting out as parents, and still trying to navigate being adults. We have so many responsibilities that we are heavily distracted from the best time in our young children’s lives. Our jobs help us make ends-meat as we live paycheck to paycheck. The bills are due, and things not purchased new are falling apart. We struggle to do everything in our day that needs to be done. There isn’t a day that goes by that we are not so exhausted, that it is all we can do to wake up and do it all again the next day.
The Lesson – Be Patient!
It was during this time in my life that my rosy cheeked 3-year old, with big brown eyes waited on me to keep a promise. I had promised my boys that we would go fishing, but time had run short and it was time for them to go to their dad’s. Once again I heard myself making excuses for why we couldn’t do something. Another reason why some imaginary deadline was more important than the committment I made to my children.
My baby said something under his breath that day that I thought I heard, but didn’t make sense. He was facing away from me and climbing up on the fireplace hearth. When I asked him to repeat what he said, he turned around and with the biggest smile you could imagine a child wearing and tears in his eyes; he said loudly, “maybe next time we’ll go fishing.” Of course, I did what any mother would have done, I hugged my baby and repeated the words, “maybe next time we’ll go fishing.”
Those words; in his voice, are still heard in my head and in my heart almost daily. Things slowed down a little after that day. I was much more careful not to make promises I couldn’t possibly keep. My need to schedule everything became an obsession as I was determined not to disappoint my children again. I can’t say that I never overbooked or misjudged my time with my children after that, but I did become much more mindful of what I said and how I delivered.
It was a lesson in patience from my 3-year old that I still carry with me today. Wise beyond his years, he gave me the gift of patience. He showed me that when things happen and when life gets in the way, that you have to push through it. Again proving that how you react to the world around you and the actions of someone else in your life, does not have to define how you see things. My son taught me that you can be disappointed and still have hope. You can really want something and still show grace when it doesn’t show up when you want it.
These lessons learned were not seen when they happened twenty-five years ago, but they have emerged over the years. In fact, I heard those words today when things I had hoped would happen during my day today didn’t happen. I was upset, but his words and his heart brought me comfort. It was at that moment that I knew that I wanted to share this story with you.
My Advice To Mom’s – Be Patient
So to all the mom’s out there with little ones. The kitchen dishes, laundry, and other housework can wait. Your bills, they will get paid. That job will also be there the next day, so put the cell phone and laptop up when you come home. Our babies want our time, and not what money can buy.
Take your kids fishing or to the park. If it’s raining outside, create an indoor adventure. Throw some sheets and blankets over the dining table. Create a cave for you and your kids to have a picnic. Don’t waste the time you have with them while they are little, because the clock is ticking. Time is moving fast and soon they will be grown and gone.
My boys taught me many lesson’s in life that I am beginning to see for the first time, and I am grateful for them every day. I can be patient in my life for things I want, because of these lessons.
And for those wondering, there were many, many more fishing trips after this lesson. Many more!
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¸.•´¸.•¨) ¸.•) Sherri
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